The Rant- Toxic Wednesday-Pt 1

Here' s a relationship that most women don't realize is a toxic relationship. Mother and son.

That's a tricky relationship and I'll tell you why in my opinion I feel this way. I'm a single mother of three sons, and I have three different relationships with all of them because they have different personalities and different needs. So far there's nothing wrong with that. Am I correct in that assumption? Well sorry to be the bearer of bad news. There is something wrong with that logic because each of my sons shares a big part of my personality hidden within them. I raised them to be individuals with a heart. They were raised with my emotions and my needs. So, in other words, they are no good for any other woman because I raised them to be the man I wanted in my life. Just think about that for a moment... Yes, ladies. Let me say that again.

We raised our young men, to be the men, we wanted in our lives. Meaning our sons know how to cater to us, our wants, our needs, our likes and dislikes. They know how to make us smile when we're feeling low. They know how to make us mad and laugh at the same time. They know what kind of perfume, food, and entertainment we like. They know how to cook and clean like us. They know how to treat us because we taught them, how to treat us. They even get our positive and negative emotional side; you all may see this as being a good thing but in reality, it is toxic for them when they get into relationships.

You see when they find a woman that they want to be with it's all good in the beginning but then the cracks start to appear, especially if they decide to move in together. Their arguments start to be about the fact that she can't cook as good as his mother. She can't wash clothes the way his mother taught him. She doesn't clean the way his mother cleans. She doesn't grocery shop the way his mother does. She doesn't put the clothes or food away like his mother. Do you see where I'm going with this? Everything she does becomes a problem for him.

You see nothing she does will ever amount to the single mother who struggled to put food on the table. The single mother who confided in him/them when she was hurting. The single mother, who worked long hours to make sure they had clothes on their backs. The single mother whose relationships failed because her boys were always number one, two, and three. The single mother, who chastised them when they were wrong. The same single mother, who showed them what love looked like, and what it felt like to receive love. The same single mother, who taught him/them compassion and sympathy. The same mother whose love was unconditional, and had their backs, no questions asked.

You see they go out looking for the kind of women that their mothers were to them growing up, and that is where the toxic relationship filters in.

Stay tuned for part 2 of Toxic Wednesdays- Mother and Son on Wednesday, January 24, 2024, at 2:00 pm.