The Rant- Monday Blues-He Fucked You Over Because You Let Him

We've all been in relationships where we felt like we were in love with the person, and they keep fucking us over, but we don't understand why. It's because we let them. It's as simple as that. Here are my thoughts and opinions on why this constantly happens to us. See we've all been in a relationship where one person loves more than the other. The one who loves the hardest and the most is willing to put up with so much bullshit just to keep that person. Even when the person is showing us, they don't want to be in the relationship anymore. I know and can speak from experience.

I was in a long-term relationship with someone who constantly cheated on me and I continued to forgive instead of walking away. I wasted eight years forgiving someone because I didn't want to give up on those few moments of happiness. My reasons were that I didn't want some other woman to get the best of all the hard work that I put into building this man to be mine. That's just stupid because you can't raise a boy to be a man especially when they have their deep-seated issues, however, I was willing to work on us instead of working on me. Does that sound like someone you know?

I finally said enough and ended the relationship, however, I continued to sleep around with that man because in the back of my mind, this was my way of getting over him, but that was all bullshit. I thought I was using him, instead he was using me. Sounds familiar.

This usually happens when there is a baby involved. When you and that person have had a child together, is when we think like that. However, we all know that in the back of your mind, (especially if he cheated on you with the woman, he's now in a relationship with) you're thinking Well she cheated with him on me, so I'm just getting even," that's pure bullshit. You're hoping that he'll miss what you had, and that's the reason why he keeps coming back to sleep with you.

But the truth is, as long as you're willing to play second fiddle, then he'll continue to come back every so often. You're so out of it that you don't even realize that he's not spending time with you, and the only reason why he comes back is because he has to be involved with y'all's child.

You spend so much time trying to fix what's broken instead of leaving it broke so you can fix and heal yourself. When you think you're in love with someone, you're willing to put up with so much bullshit just to feel good about being in that relationship, but that's not healthy for you or the person you're dealing with.

We get fucked over because we let them fuck us over. When you don't know your worth, you step into relationships that are unbalanced, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially, and physically. Just because the dick feels good, and some of the memories are okay doesn't mean you have to accept being treated like shit to stay in something that wasn't meant for you. Let's learn our worth so that we will no longer allow anyone to fuck us over, ever again.